Wednesday, March 15, 2017

REASONS WHY A FILIPINA WOULD DATE A FOREIGN MAN

Philippine women are culturally, financially, and lovingly attracted to foreign men.  It’s not just a fantasy; it’s a fact of Philippine life. This article may leave the impression that dating a Filipina will always result in a happy marriage.  While that is the goal of every love struck Philippine lady it is not the only outcome.  Date a Filipina!  Enjoy the experience!  If you don’t feel it is the right fit then date another one.  She will understand.  In fact some Filipinas will recommend you to a friend once she realizes that marriage is an unlikely outcome.  What could be better?

MacArthur is a National Hero - The love affair between Filipinas and foreign men seems to have its roots as early as WW2.  This is when General MacArthur returned to Philippines and saved the local population from their enemies.  Since that time, all foreign military men have received a warm welcome from the people of Philippines and from the ladies in particular.  In recent times those warm feelings have spread to include most foreign men from all walks of life.

All Foreign Men are Rich - Of course this is not true.  Most foreign men are just normal folk trying to get by on a modest income.  The prevailing assumption in some cultures is that Filipinas must only be interested in money because the men they choose are old and ugly.  That is another fallacy.  The foreign men that Philippine women date may be old or young, rich or poor, fat or thin, but never ugly.  All foreigners are handsome to a Filipina.

There are financial hopes and dreams that encourage a Filipina to date a rich man.  She values education but it costs money.  She may want to start a business and need a rich husband to support her.  These are practical considerations but not the primary motives for a Filipina to date a foreign man.

Foreign Men Value Commitment - Living in crowded conditions, a Philippine girl often has her first local boyfriend as soon as she reaches puberty.  Even those girls who avoid early sexual encounters can see that their friends are getting pregnant and their boyfriends are unable or unwilling to support the children financially.

As those same girls get older and wiser they notice many Filipinas with foreign husbands who live well and raise healthy families.  This sets up a fantasy that finding a foreigner will give the Philippine girl a better life.  Of course there are Philippine men who are great husbands and raise wonderful families but the fantasy is that foreigners are better.  Philippine men seem to accept this fantasy and even encourage girls to find a foreigner.  The men are confident in themselves and do not seem at all threatened when foreigners date local girls.

Family Encouragement - The Philippine family welcomes foreigners who marry into it.  There is a social status to having a foreigner in the family and there is a practical element too.  When a foreigner marries into a Philippine family he will be seen as one of the richest members of the clan.  There will be poor relations who will ask for a loan or handout when their kids are hungry or in need of medicine.  There will be better off relatives seeking a little help to establish a business or go to school or travel to a job abroad.  Many foreigners who marry Filipinas face these requests and often they choose to help out.

The family acceptance comes without any financial requirement.  Helping the family is a voluntary concept which is culturally expected in Philippines but not demanded of a man coming from a different culture.  A Filipina and her family are both happy with foreigner babies.  All babies are loved in Philippines but a baby from the coupling of a Philippine woman and her foreign husband is put high on a pedestal and will get royal treatment.

Love and Trust - Philippine woman are among the most romantic in the world.  Spanish blood mixes with island fervor to make a passionate mix.  These ladies believe strongly in love.  They are jealous lovers who will give all and expect all in return. When a Filipina finds her foreign lover she will go everywhere with him, follow his lead and show him the way if he gets lost.

It only takes a short while for a Philippine lady to learn to trust her foreign partner.  This is a society that values marriage and land so a man needs to propose marriage and purchase a house and lot.  Filipinas marry for life.  There is no divorce in Philippines.  A Filipina commits all her love and trust to just one man.  A foreign man who finds such a love is lucky indeed.