Sex during Covid-19

Let’s start with what we know right now. COVID-19 is a respiratory disease, so direct contact with saliva—through kissing, for example—can easily pass the virus. While COVID-19 has not yet been found in vaginal fluid, it has been found in feces of people who are infected. So this means that rimming (oral/anal contact) and anal sex may spread COVID-19 as well. Remember that condoms and dental dams reduce contact with saliva and feces during anal and oral sex or oral/anal contact.

All close contact (within 6 feet or 2 meters) with an infected person can expose you to the virus that causes coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) — whether you're engaged in sexual activity or not.

A recent study has also found the coronavirus in semen, both in men who had active infections and those who had recovered, but it isn’t clear at this point if it can be sexually transmitted through semen.

The virus spreads by respiratory droplets released when someone with the virus coughs, sneezes or talks. These droplets can be inhaled or land in the mouth or nose of a person nearby. Coming into contact with a person's spit through kissing or other sexual activities could expose you to the virus. People who have COVID-19 could also spread respiratory droplets onto their skin and personal belongings. A sexual partner could get the virus by touching these surfaces and then touching his or her mouth, nose or eyes. In addition, the COVID-19 virus can spread through contact with feces. It's possible that you could get the COVID-19 virus from sexual activities that expose you to fecal matter.

Based on current evidence, coronavirus - the virus that causes COVID-19 illness - is not passed on through vaginal or anal intercourse.

If you or your sexual partner are displaying symptoms of COVID-19 – a dry persistent cough, temperature, or difficulty breathing – you should limit all close physical contact to stop the spread of the virus. This means avoiding physical intimacy, such as kissing and cuddling, as well as anal, vaginal, or oral sex.

If you decide to go online, be aware of what you are sharing and who you are sharing it with. Remember to only do what feels right. Your partner may want to explore this new way of being sexual but you shouldn’t feel pressured to share sexual content over the phone or internet if you don’t want to.

If you live in the same house as a regular sexual partner and you both have no symptoms, then you can continue having sex (with consent) as normal for your relationship. 

If your partner is having sex with other people who don’t live with you, then this increases your risk of getting COVID-19.

If you have sex with someone you don’t live with there are a few things you can do to lower the risk of getting or spreading COVID-19.

• Avoid kissing or exchanging saliva with anyone outside of your household.
• Avoid sexual activities which include licking around the anus.
• Use condoms or dental dams to reduce contact with saliva or poo.
• Take a shower and wash your hands and body thoroughly with soap and water both before and after sex.
• If you use sex toys, wash these thoroughly with soap and water and do not share them.
• Consider sexual arousal techniques that don’t involve physical contact – like talking.
• Mutual masturbation while physical distancing.
• Limit your physical interactions by reducing the number of sexual partners you have overall, and/or at the same time.

Having sex with yourself, masturbation, has no COVID-19 risk and is one of the best ways to keep enjoying sex during this pandemic. You can also explore other ways to have sex without anyone physically present, including through phone or webcam.

Sexual Anatomy & Sex

As HIV can be transmitted sexually, youth need to understand their sexual anatomy and different types of sexual activity. It is important that adolescent sex education lessons include basic male and female anatomical structures and physiology, where these structures are located, and their function related to sexual activity and reproduction.

To be inclusive of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer youth and to educate young people about the positive aspects of sexuality, lessons should include:

Puberty (brain development, biological sex, and reproductive anatomy and physiology)

• Sex (types of sexual activity, risks associated with different types of sexual activity)
• Sexuality (sexual expression)
• Sexual health
• Sexual Anatomy

Beyond the four biological functions of reproduction, most people use their sex organs (penis, vagina) to express their attraction to or love for a sexual or romantic partner.

Female sexual and reproductive organs include (in alphabetical order):

• Accessory glands
• Fallopian tubes
• Ovaries
• Uterus
• Vagina
• Vulva
• Male sexual and reproductive organs include (in alphabetical order):

Bulbourethral glands

1. Network of excretory ducts (epididymis, ductus deferens (vas deferens), and ejaculatory ducts)
2. Pair of testes
3. Penis
4. Prostate
5. Seminal vesicles
6. In both females and males, the perianal region (area around the anus) and anus may also be used for sexual arousal.

Sex
Sex can be defined in many ways. While some people believe sex only includes vaginal sex (penis inserted in a vagina), sexual health experts know sex involves a spectrum of activities. Some people engage in no, some, or all types of sexual activity. Everyone is different and the way they express their sexuality is also different.

Types of sexual activity include (in alphabetical order):

• Anal sex (penis in anus)
• Dry humping (genital-to-genital)
• Fingering or hand jobs (hand-to-genital)
• Kissing (lip-to-lip or lip-to-body)
• Masturbation (exciting one's own genitals)
• Oral sex (mouth-to-penis, mouth-to-vagina, mouth-to-perianal region)
• Outercourse (sexual stimulation between partners without anal or vaginal penetration)
• Vaginal sex (penis in vagina)

While each activity is a way to express attraction to or love for a romantic or sexual partner, it comes with varying levels of risk for HIV, other STIs, and unintended pregnancy.

The sexual response cycle is the sequence of physical and emotional changes that occur as a person becomes sexually aroused in response to sexual activity. There are four phases in the cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.

Pregnancy is caused by semen (ejaculate) or pre-ejaculate getting inside the vagina or vulva. Usually this occurs as a result of male orgasm achieved during vaginal sex. It may also happen if pre-ejaculate is released during penis-to-vulva contact without penetration. The most effective ways to prevent unwanted pregnancy are to: 1) choose not to be sexually active or 2) if sexually active, use a dual method (condom and another kind of birth control) every time.

To be inclusive of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer youth and to educate young people about the positive aspects of sexuality, lessons should include:

• Puberty (brain development, biological sex, and reproductive anatomy and physiology)
• Sex (types of sexual activity, risks associated with different types of sexual activity)
• Sexuality (sexual expression)
• Sexual health

SAVE VAGINA NOW!

To maintain a healthy vagina you must know what to do to avoid infection and it is equally important to educate your sexual partner on some of them to also help you help the vagina.
Here are some few things you can do or avoid.

1. Fingering 
During foreplay or romance, as part of it some people insert their finger or fingers into the vagina. The question is, how many people wash their hands before sexual intercourse? Some people do not even keep their nails clean so it gathers a lot of germs and during the fingering, these germs are deposited in the vagina...leading to infection. Same thing apply to autopleasure acts or masturbation.

2. Anal sex
I am not here to tell anybody to have anal sex or not to but I simply want to draw the attention of those who engage in anal sex with the opposite sex that it is dangerous to have anal sex and continue having penovaginal sex. If this is done, the penis will pick bacteria from the anus and deliver them to the vagina even if you are using a condom....which will lead to infection.

3. Quest to make the vagina TIGHT
Some guys complain bitterly about the vagina of their sexual partners. They complain that it's too big and they no more feel any sensation during intercourse. Some ladies are therefore pushed to find a quick solution and in the process some use herbs or other substances in the vagina with the hope of making the vagina tight. Some of the substances cause infection or sepsis. Some of the herbs can cause the vagina to get tighter to the extent that penetration is no more possible. This will require treatment.

4. Douching 

Some parents, when bathing for their baby girls put warm water in a milk tin or dip a towel in the warm water and pour the water through a hole made beneath the tin or squeeze the water out of the towel into the vagina of the baby. This is sooooo WRONG as it can damage the hymen.
Some parents also insert ginger or pepper or both into the vagina of adolescents as a form of punishment. This is sooooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.
Some people are use to bathing by adding dettol or other detergents to the water and they put this solution inside the vagina with the help of sponge or towel or just the hand with soap to clean the vagina. This is soooo WRONG as it will change the normal flora in the vagina, leading to infection.

5. Use of water closet
Some people have the habit of not sitting on the seat of the WC when using it so they end up urinating on the seat. The possibility of picking infection when using it in that condition is high. Don't let your pant be at the thigh level when using the WC especially the public ones as the inner of the pant may rub the surface of the WC. Where the water is not running and people have used but have not flushed and you don't have any choice but to also use it, use enough toilet roll to cover before using the WC to avoid any splashes on the vulva.

6. Washing and drying 
Develop the habit of disinfecting your panties frequently...depending on the number of pants you have. Keep exclusive panties to wear whenever you are menstruating and don't mix those panties with your regular panties. Pay particular attention to those panties when washing. Ensure that the panties are made of cotton and are dried in the sun or well ironed to kill germs.

7. Change sanitary pads
Some people try to economize the use of their sanitary pads so during the period they tend to still wear the pad because there is little or no blood. This is soooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

NB: If there is any bad scent from the vagina or there is a discharge coming from the vagina then it might be an infection which you have to have it treated.
Help save the vagina by ensuring that you get the message to as many friends as possible. Help save the vagina by getting the message to your sexual partner or sisters.

REASONS WHY A FILIPINA WOULD DATE A FOREIGN MAN

Philippine women are culturally, financially, and lovingly attracted to foreign men.  It’s not just a fantasy; it’s a fact of Philippine life. This article may leave the impression that dating a Filipina will always result in a happy marriage.  While that is the goal of every love struck Philippine lady it is not the only outcome.  Date a Filipina!  Enjoy the experience!  If you don’t feel it is the right fit then date another one.  She will understand.  In fact some Filipinas will recommend you to a friend once she realizes that marriage is an unlikely outcome.  What could be better?

MacArthur is a National Hero - The love affair between Filipinas and foreign men seems to have its roots as early as WW2.  This is when General MacArthur returned to Philippines and saved the local population from their enemies.  Since that time, all foreign military men have received a warm welcome from the people of Philippines and from the ladies in particular.  In recent times those warm feelings have spread to include most foreign men from all walks of life.

All Foreign Men are Rich - Of course this is not true.  Most foreign men are just normal folk trying to get by on a modest income.  The prevailing assumption in some cultures is that Filipinas must only be interested in money because the men they choose are old and ugly.  That is another fallacy.  The foreign men that Philippine women date may be old or young, rich or poor, fat or thin, but never ugly.  All foreigners are handsome to a Filipina.

There are financial hopes and dreams that encourage a Filipina to date a rich man.  She values education but it costs money.  She may want to start a business and need a rich husband to support her.  These are practical considerations but not the primary motives for a Filipina to date a foreign man.

Foreign Men Value Commitment - Living in crowded conditions, a Philippine girl often has her first local boyfriend as soon as she reaches puberty.  Even those girls who avoid early sexual encounters can see that their friends are getting pregnant and their boyfriends are unable or unwilling to support the children financially.

As those same girls get older and wiser they notice many Filipinas with foreign husbands who live well and raise healthy families.  This sets up a fantasy that finding a foreigner will give the Philippine girl a better life.  Of course there are Philippine men who are great husbands and raise wonderful families but the fantasy is that foreigners are better.  Philippine men seem to accept this fantasy and even encourage girls to find a foreigner.  The men are confident in themselves and do not seem at all threatened when foreigners date local girls.

Family Encouragement - The Philippine family welcomes foreigners who marry into it.  There is a social status to having a foreigner in the family and there is a practical element too.  When a foreigner marries into a Philippine family he will be seen as one of the richest members of the clan.  There will be poor relations who will ask for a loan or handout when their kids are hungry or in need of medicine.  There will be better off relatives seeking a little help to establish a business or go to school or travel to a job abroad.  Many foreigners who marry Filipinas face these requests and often they choose to help out.

The family acceptance comes without any financial requirement.  Helping the family is a voluntary concept which is culturally expected in Philippines but not demanded of a man coming from a different culture.  A Filipina and her family are both happy with foreigner babies.  All babies are loved in Philippines but a baby from the coupling of a Philippine woman and her foreign husband is put high on a pedestal and will get royal treatment.

Love and Trust - Philippine woman are among the most romantic in the world.  Spanish blood mixes with island fervor to make a passionate mix.  These ladies believe strongly in love.  They are jealous lovers who will give all and expect all in return. When a Filipina finds her foreign lover she will go everywhere with him, follow his lead and show him the way if he gets lost.

It only takes a short while for a Philippine lady to learn to trust her foreign partner.  This is a society that values marriage and land so a man needs to propose marriage and purchase a house and lot.  Filipinas marry for life.  There is no divorce in Philippines.  A Filipina commits all her love and trust to just one man.  A foreign man who finds such a love is lucky indeed.

12 Early Warning Signs of Prostate Cancer

Unfortunately in most cases, prostate cancer symptoms only appear in the cancer's early development.

The symptoms of prostate cancer are different for each man so never rule out the possibility that some of these symptoms may be caused by other illnesses.

It's extremely important, especially for men past the age of 50, to undergo medical examinations to find out potential problems in their bodies.

1. Frequent urges to urinate especially during the evening
2. Difficulties in urination when in the standing position. There is also difficulty in starting and ending the urination process.
3. Decreased flow of urine and changing the color of urine.
4. A burning sensation during urination
5. An unpleasant feeling at the beginning of the urination process
6. Pain or numbness that occurs in the hips, thighs, legs and/or lower back
7. Bone pain which may leads to fractures
8. Discomfort and Swelling in legs or pelvic area
9. Problems with ejaculation - Painful ejaculation
10. Impotence - Erectile Dysfunction
11. Blood in urine (Hematuria)
12. Blood in semen (Hematospermia)

Remember to visit your doctor if you experience any of these signs and symptoms.

Husband and Wife

A Guy who has no job got married to a banker, despite his fears and several advises that it's not good to marry without a job. Every month the girl Would give the guy her full salary of $80,000 after removing her tithe. The guy would give the wife $20.000 for personal upkeep and the guy determined what happened to the remaining money.

This happened for 3 good years. There was happiness in the family and the wife never refused to do her primary home duties for that 3 years, despite wrong advice from friends that 'you can't be paying the bills and still be doing all the work'.

There was a particular month the guy used about $50.000 to travel from region to region for different interviews. He finally got a job with a good firm. His salary was $380,000 monthly for a start. He bought his first car (a brand new) for 2.2 million dollars he gave the wife the car key,& continued to take public transport to work for about 3 years. Then he bought the 2nd car for 4 million took the keys of the first car & gave his wife the keys of the 2nd car. They eventually moved into their own house after few years. One day, the wife was looking for some documents. She stumbled on a file neatly hidden, when she opened it, she saw her wedding picture when she was very slim in the first page of the file. She then saw that the document the purchase of the land and every other thing in the house were all written in her name! At the last page was the husband's wedding picture and a note
written by him:

''MY WIFE IS ALL I HAVE GOT. NOT EVEN THIS HOUSE WORTH 100 millions AT THE TIME I BUILT IS MINE'' .

Tears started to roll down her eyes. This couple got married in 1998. Last Sunday was their wedding anniversary, blessed with 3 children. True LOVE still exists till this day. Are you sure the love you have for your partner can be compared to this one you just read? No matter what remember you chose each other. It doesn't matter who puts food on the table or who pays the bills. Always know, NO CONDITION IS PERMANENT.

Now I pray that God will surely lead you to your destined life partner

Secrets of Great Sex

A Portrait of ‘Great Sex”. They focused their attention on identifying specific characteristics that comprise ‘great sex’. The investigation was conducted in the hopes of debunking sexual myths, and to offer an broader view based on a spectrum of sexuality. Adrenaline, intense attraction, or the things they know how to do in bed; what is it about a sexual encounter that makes it so great? The outcome of such work offers a new way for people to view “human erotic potential and expand our understanding of what sex can be”.

The data was accumulated from the answers collected in detailed interviews, which lasted anywhere between forty five minutes to two hours. The focal point of the questions was to learn more about optimal sexuality by learning about respondents’ best sexual experiences, then tabulating their responses to come up with the most common factors. The study based their findings on a total of sixty four participants, encompassing a diverse sampling of population. Those interviewed were men and women, diverse in age range, ethnic origin and sexual orientation; some also identified themselves as polyamorous, practitioners of S&M, as well as Sex Therapists. Participants’ ages ranged from twenty three to eight two years of age.

What Comprises Optimal Sex?

Sex is subjective. Many of the participants of the study put it this way, “no one can simply define ‘great sex’ for others”. Yet their responses revealed a great deal of commonality, despite differences in lifestyles, ages and Sexual Orientation. Ultimately, the study illustrated that “there may be many routes to experience great sex, but the actual experience can be very similar across varying individuals”.

Ten key components of phenomenal sexual experiences were identified during the course of research. Eight were deemed significant because they came up most often and were greatly emphasized by almost all respondents. The last two were characterized as insufficient in themselves to be necessary aspects of great sex, but were still considered by researchers as worthy of mention in the study.

1. Being present, focused and embodied

The state of feeling “totally absorbed in the moment”, of being completely in tune with the sensations being experienced during great sex, was stated by interviewees most often and ahead of any other characteristic of an ideal sexual experience.

Another distinguishing aspect was the ability of respondents and their sexual partners to completely let themselves go during sex. They were unimpeded by distractions such as the mental ‘running commentary’ that many people have trouble shutting off.

2. Connection, alignment, merger, being in synch

Many of the respondents believed that a deep connection between two people, irrespective of the length of the relationship (hours to years), was a key component of optimal sexual union. Some described it as feeling synchronistic during intimate contact and a sense of merger, a “loss of personal boundaries, a distinct loss of … self-awareness in the sense of separateness from the other”. Others characterized it as a powerful energy and a sense of connectivity that kindles between two individuals.

Interestingly, with all this talk of merger and fusion, those who responded most passionately regarding this aspect of sex noted that the more grounded they were in themselves (with a strong sense of self), the more capable they were to let go with another. Additionally, they emphasized the need to set clear boundaries, accept themselves for who they are, and feel respected by their partner.

3. Deep sexual and erotic intimacy

The essence of this category is to imagine the undercurrent of intimacy two people develop long before they actually have Sex . The panel asserted a powerful connection between erotic intimacy and a sense of safety/security in a relationship. This affinity can be derived by a “deep mutual respect, caring, genuine acceptance and admiration”. As it relates to this category of intimacy, practically every one who participated in this study expressed the importance of a profound sense of trust between lovers.

4. Extraordinary communication, heightened empathy

The emphasis on communication doesn’t stress individuals being technically skilled communicators as much as it underscores people’s capacity to truly and freely share themselves. Participants articulated the importance of listening well and paying attention to verbal and non-verbal cues. They also reiterated the ability “to recognize (in a sexual capacity), even without being told told, what and when a particular kind of touch elicits a certain response in your partner and another does not.” Non-verbal communication was seen as a vital component of transcendent sex. In order to successfully embody this element of sexuality interviewees stressed the responsibility of individuals to be emotionally mature enough to recognize their own needs and desires, in order to be able to convey them to their partners.

5. Authenticity, being genuine, uninhibited, transparency

One woman summed up these qualities as “sex where you can say anything and be anything”. Authenticity in a sexual relationship involves individuals being entirely self-expressive, uninhibited and unself-conscious. With the results of this study continually building upon the importance of ‘letting go’ in relationships, the participants’ data proved another important corollary; being so completely genuine with another human being has an incredibly powerful effect emotionally and sexually. ‘Baring it all’ was considered by many to be liberating and an important component of amazing sex. It also gave permission to their partners to be free to do the same.

Respondents attributed much of their success in coming to such a state of confidence and genuineness, to letting go of restrictive sexual myths and unrealistic expectations as it relates to eroticism.

6. Transcendence, bliss, peace, transformation, healing

The feelings of “bliss, peace, awe, ecstasy and soulfulness” were the signature characteristics of extraordinary sex. Some likened the experience to the transcendent feeling reached during meditation, while it reminded others of timelessness and expansiveness. Being able to trust your sexual partner enough to let yourself experience such intensity was seen as the fundamental basis of these factors.

7. Exploration, interpersonal risk-taking, fun

Participants of this study explained that great sex was a vehicle for them to discover themselves. By taking risks and pushing their own sexual boundaries, respondents felt a sense of adventure and personal growth, which in turn fuels further development and discovery. Many of them also agreed on the following, “What’s sex without a little fun and laughter?”

8. Vulnerability and surrender

The ability to give oneself over to their partner was a distinguishing factor between regular and amazing sex. Being willing to let go and feel vulnerable were among the characteristics that allowed individuals to achieve this state of interpersonal sexual abandon. There is a way to tell whether you’re truly surrendering to sex with your lover; as one interviewee put it, in unexceptional relationships, “There’s always some maybe small but detectable barriers, some things held back. In great sex, I think those (for me) disappear”.

9. Intense physical sensation and orgasm

There were a range of opinions presented as to the role Orgasms play in great sex. Both men and women agreed that an orgasm was not necessary for a sexual experience to be considered exceptional. However, they noted that orgasms seemed to come naturally anyway when they were having ‘great sex’. Some respondents also underscored the satisfaction they derived from a slow build up to pleasure.

10. Lust, desire, chemistry, attraction

A striking conclusion drawn from the results of these interviews was the role that lust and desire played in amazing sex. They made it onto the ‘Top Ten’ list not because they were valuable in and of themselves, but rather because of their impact when they’re mutually experienced. Whether individuals were drawn to one another through lust or attraction, their compelling chemistry influenced their perception of sex positively.

Breaking Sexual Ground

The study found that there was a lack of valid research regarding the nature of great sex, citing that experts in the field of Sexual Health actually have “minimal data on the farther reaches of human sexual potential”. It also pointed out that other studies have a tendency to not take into account the broader spectrum of sexual function; they either take a more black and white approach, or focus too attention on treating dysfunction.

Final Thoughts

One of the most significant outcomes of this study was that the actual ‘acts’ performed during sex were deemed inconsequential when compared to the “mindset and intent of the person or couple engaged in these acts”. These findings draw powerful conclusions about sex and healthy functioning, namely that individuals need not look outside of themselves to achieve great sex. Too great a focus on the physical mechanisms of sex will not be as fulfilling overall as the emotional, spiritual and psychological benefits of being present, embodied and vulnerable during sex. Additionally, the study encourages “comfort with self, personal and interpersonal exploration, revelation and acceptance”. If an individual can achieve this level of growth, they are more apt to take risks both sexually and psychically, and can discover erotic attributes that they did not even know they possessed!

How To Masturbate for Men

Masturbation is considered by many to be the cornerstone of sexual health. Most men believe that they already know everything about their own genitals and sexual response. It’s all out there, boys will be boys, etc. But just because you know how your tools work, doesn’t mean you can build the Eiffel Tower. In fact most men experience a fraction of their full erotic and orgasmic potential. Read on for simple and fun tips on how to masturbate for men.

Time Required: Male masturbation doesn’t have to always be a “quick affair”. Take your time and enjoy.

Here’s How:

Make time for more than a quickie. Most guys first learn to masturbate in secret and furtive ways. They do it quickly and need to figure out what to do with the evidence afterward. This can create a powerful pattern of masturbating quickly, without paying attention to where your sexual arousal can take you. To start exploring something different, make sure you have some extended time and privacy for yourself, where you aren’t trying to finish quick before someone interrupts.

Turn off the porn (just for a while) and tune into your body. Not everyone likes porn, but a lot of guys do, and while porn can be great, it also takes you out of your body a bit with the fantasy. This can distract you from what’s actually happening in your body. You don’t need to throw the porn away, but for a few times, masturbate without porn, and objectify yourself for a change!

Do a…dry…run through. Bad pun aside, it’s a good idea to try the above suggestions, and then just masturbate as you normally would. As you do this pay attention:
Changes in your breathing: Does it become shallow and quick, slower and deeper?
Changes in your body: is there tension in some places, and relaxation in others? Is this the same every time you masturbate?

• How does it feel just before you have an orgasm?
• How does it feel as you orgasm, and immediately post-orgasm?

Time to switch it up. Men learn early in their lives the most effective way to get themselves off. And most never waver from the utilitarian approach to self love. But sex is less like a well oiled machine, and more like a chaotic food fair, where there is an endless selection of ways to satisfy your appetites. So it’s time to throw a wrench in the works and shake up your routine. Try any combination of the following suggestions:

Does your left hand know what your right hand is doing? Do you always use the same one hand to masturbate? Most guys do. If you’re among them, start with the simple tip of switching hands. It can feel strange at first, the rhythm might be off, it’s almost like sex with someone new for the first time. Enjoy the newness, and see if a new hand can teach an old hand some tricks.

Experiment with positions. If you aren’t an experimental type, it’s time to start. If you’re used to masturbating lying down on your back, try sitting up. If you normally sit in a chair, try standing, or kneeling. As with all these changes, this might feel ridiculous at first, and you’ll probably go back to old faithful, but see what masturbation feels like in different positions, and notice if it brings with it any new sensations.

Get your hips moving. The way your body moves when you masturbate is probably very different from the way it moves when you’re having sex with someone else. Many men don’t move at all when they masturbate. Try to move your hips when you masturbate, simulating the thrusting of intercourse. Notice how moving your hips in different ways can bring you closer to, and at times take you farther away from, the point of orgasm.

Use different hand strokes.
Most men learn early on that a vigorous stroke does the trick. This intense up and down stimulation usually ends in a good orgasm. But there are dozens of other strokes that each bring with them different sensations, and different orgasms. Roll your penis in between your hands, moving your hands up and down your shaft. Try using long twisting strokes instead of just up and down. Experiment with different movements, pressures, and speeds.

Explore your shaft. While most of the nerve endings on the penis are at the head, and specifically the frenulum, many men will have spots on their shaft that are unusually sensitive. Try putting one hand at the base of your penis and press it towards your body while experimenting with different hand strokes along the shaft of your penis. Treat this like a treasure hunt, and try to feel the difference between one side and the other, between stimulation near the base and up near the tip.

Reach around, yourself. For many men the balls (testicles) are a very sensitive area that responds well to feelings of touch and pressure. Take your forefinger and thumb and make them in a circle at the top of your scrotum. Gently tug on your scrotum as your masturbating. This is both a way to prevent you from ejaculating and a way to extend sexual feelings in your body. Experiment with other kinds of touch including tickling, scratching, and rubbing.

Check out the neighborhood. While the penis and scrotum tend to be the epicenter of masturbatory attention, if you’re looking to open things up a bit, be sure to take a tour of some other nearby areas. The perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, is very sensitive to pressure and massage, and rubbing it provides external prostate stimulation. Speaking of which, don’t be afraid to explore the anus, both externally and by using a finger for penetration.

Bring it all together. Not everything you try is going to do it for you, but the idea behind the above tips is to try lots of different things, and then incorporate whatever you like into the ways you regularly masturbate. Maybe it’s a different stroke, or position, or breathing technique. Obviously there is no one, correct way to masturbate, and even if you’ve got something that works for you, consider the fact that there could be more out there if you experiment with it.

Tips:

• Another myth about male masturbation is that you shouldn’t use anything other than you hand. While your hand might be doing the trick, adding some accessories can make the stimulation even more intense, and inspire more creativity with yourself, and with partners.
• Get a good quality personal lubricant . If it’s only for masturbation you can use something that’s oil based without worrying about condom compatibility. Oil based products are better because they won’t dry up.
• Add a sex toy into the mix. It might be a vibrator, a dildo, or a cock ring (if you’ve never tried one I recommend trying one on your own before you use it with a partner). Sex toys can add a completely new kind of stimulation, and accentuate the manual stimulation your doing.

Fake Orgasm

Madalas, mga babae ang nagfe-fake ng orgasm.  Nakaranas na ba kayo na ang partner nyo ang nag-fake ng kanyang orgasm?  Pano nyo ba masasabi kung fake ang orgasm ng babae?  Well, mahirap i-identify yan.  Kasi magaling mag fake ng orgasm ang babae.  Ganun din kasi ako.  Akala nila nilabasan na ko pero hindi pa.  Kaya minsan humihingi pa ko ng second round.  Sa mga babae, mararamdaman mong nag-orgasm ka na kung nanginginig at umiinit ang iyong katawan, bumibilis ang pintig ng iyong puso, umaakyat ang iyong dugo sa iyong ulo at parang nararamdaman mong pumapantig ang iyong puke.  Kung ito ay mapapansin ng mga lalake, ibig sabihin ay napapaligaya nyo ang iyong partner.

Bibigyan ko kayo ng tips, lalo na sa mga lalake, para mabigyan nyo ng orgasm ang mga partner nyo.  At sa mga babae naman, para ma-achieve nyo ang orgasm na di lang isang beses, pwede ring multiple orgasm.

• Foreplay - Importante 'to sa bawat babae.  Ito ay panimula upang uminit ang babae.  Tulad sakin, gusto ko may foreplay muna bago ang pagkantot.  Maaring passionate kissing, sensual massage, petting o touching ang gawin na foreplay.  Maaari din na manood kayo ng porn habang nagtatalik para parehas kayong uminit at maging horny.
• Masturbate - Para sa mga babae, maganda na rin na matuto tayong mag masturbate.  Ibabahagi ko sa inyo ang mga paraan ng pag-masturbate sa susunod kong post.  Sa pag-mamasturbate, mas malalaman mo kung ano ang magpapaligaya sayo sa pamamagitan ng paghawak at paglaro mo sa iba't ibang parte ng iyong katawan.
• Sex toys - May ibang mag-partner na ayaw gumamit ng sex toys.  Anila, maaring masanay ang tao sa paggamit ng sex toys at hindi na sila labasan sa aktwal na pagtatalik.  Ito ay hindi totoo dahil ang mga sex toys ay isang paraan lamang para malaman ng tao kung saan sya maliligayahan.  Isa lamang itong tulong upang ma-explore mo ang iyong katawan at kakayanan.
• Communication - Importante na sinasabi mo sa partner mo kung ano ang mga bagay na magpapaligaya sayo pagdating sa sex.  Sa ganitong paraan, pareho nyong maaabot ang langit.  Kung kinakailangan nyong mag talk dirty, gawin nyo.  Kung ang iba't ibang position ay makakapag-arouse sa inyo, gawin nyo.  Ang importante, di ka nahihiya at sinasabi mo sa partner mo kung ano ang gusto mo.  Kaya importante rin na pinagkakatiwalaan mo ang partner mo pagdating sa sex.

 Maaaring marami pang paraan para maabot ang orgasm.  Ito ay base lamang sa aking karanasan.  Baka meron pa kayong mai-share.  Kaya nyo bang ipa-multiple orgasm ang babae?  Gawin nyo nga sakin yun!

FEMALE EXTERNAL GENITALIA: VULVA, LABIA, and CLITORIS

The Vulva is the external sexual organ of women. The above view (A) shows the external view of the female vulva as normally seen when the woman is standing up. View (B) shows the vulva when it is opened, and from the top down one can clearly see the Veneris Mons, clitoral hood, clitoris, and labia minora. There are many questions about the vulva on alt.sex, and this FAQ will begin to attempt to answer some of these.

Vulva

The external female genitals are collectively referred to as The Vulva. All of the words below are part of the vulva.

Mons Veneris

The mons veneris, Latin for "hill of Venus" (Roman Goddess of love) is the pad of fatty tissue that covers the pubic bone below the abdomen but above the labia. The mons is sexually sensitive in some women and protects the pubic bone from the impact of sexual intercourse.

Labia Majora

The labia majora are the outer lips of the vulva, pads of fatty tissue that wrap around the vulva from the mons to the perineum. These labia are usually covered with pubic hair, and contain numerous sweat and oil glands, and it has been suggested that the scent from these are sexually arousing.

Labia Minora

The labia minora are the inner lips of the vulva, thin stretches of tissue within the labia majora that fold and protect the vagina, urethra, and clitoris. The appearance of labia minora can vary widely, from tiny lips that hide between the labia majora to large lips that protrude. The most common metaphor for the labia minora is that of a flower. Both the inner and outer labia are quite sensitive to touch and pressure.

Clitoris

The clitoris, visible in picture (B) as the small white oval between the top of the labia minora and the clitoral hood, is a small body of spongy tissue that is highly sexually sensitive. Only the tip or glans of the clitoris shows extrernally, but the organ itself is elongated and branched into two forks, the crura, which extend downward along the rim of the vaginal opening toward the perineum. Thus the clitoris is much larger than most peole think it is -- about 4" long, on avergae. The clitoral glans or external tip of the cltoris is protected by the prepuce, or clitoral hood, a covering of tissue similar to the foreskin of the male penis. During sexual excitement, the clitoris may extend and the hood retract to make the clitoral glans more accessible. On some women the clitoral glans is very small; other women may have large clitori that the hood does not completely cover.

Urethra

The opening to the urethra is just below the clitoris. It is not related to sex or reproduction, but is instead the passage for urine. The urethra is connected to the bladder. Because the urethra is so close to the anus, women should always wipe themselves from front to back to avoid infecting the vagina and urethra with bacteria.

 

Hymen

 

The above illustrations show the area between the labia minora. From top to bottom can be clearly seen the clitoris, urethral opening, and vaginal opening. A, B, and C show vaginal openings with a normal hymen, a membrane that partially covers the opening. The hymen is the traditional "symbol" of virginity, although being a very thin membrane, it can be torn by vigorous exercise or the insertion of a tampon. Illustration D shows an imperforate hymen that completely closes the vagina; this rare condition requires surgical intervention to provide for a normal flow of blood once menstruation begins. Illustration E is of a vagina in a post-partum woman (one who has given birth).

Perineum

The perineum is the short stretch of skin starting at the bottom of the vulva and extending to the anus. The perineum in women often tears during birth to accomodate passage of the child, and this is apparently natural. Some physicians may cut the perineum preemptively on the grounds that the "tearing" may be more harmful than a precise scalpel, but statistics show that such cutting in fact may increase the potential for infection.

 

Teenage girl faces lashing for pre-marital sex

The ruling came 10 months after UN human rights chief Navi Pillay urged the Maldives to stop publicly flogging women for having extra-marital or pre-marital sex.

Pillay noted during a visit that the Maldives had progressed in safeguarding the rights of its 330,000 Sunni Muslims, but more needed to be done to protect women.

Flogging, carried out with a cane, is normally handed down as a punishment by village chiefs who also act as local judges.

Rights activists slammed the judgement and called for it to be overturned.

"Degrading and inhuman punishments should find no place in a democracy," said Aruna Kashyap, women's rights researcher for Asia at Human Rights Watch.

"Maldives should immediately halt the execution of the punishment and take action to amend its discriminatory laws."

Suhas Chakma, director of the Asian Centre for Human Rights, said the sentence reflected the government's intention to consolidate its support among sharia law followers, in the face of serious political opposition.

"This could be used by the government to say they're committed to Islam," he said. "Courts are not independent in the Maldives so the government will have a hand."

He said the lashes were also a breach of the UN Convention against Torture.

There were mixed reactions in comments posted on the local news website Minivan News.

"This is ridiculous, and hypocritical," said one reader, identified as Mariyam.

"How many people over the age of 18 are having sex outside of marriage every day in this country. Why not flog them. And why not flog the 29-year-old man. If the girl has to face public humiliation why not the man."

Another, identified as Dhivehi Hanguraama, volunteered to administer the lashing.

"I myself would volunteer to whip this creature, as would any of self-respecting, esteemed, members of the ulama (religious scholars)."

Police said they began their probe after receiving a complaint from the girl's family.

"We investigated and forwarded our findings to the prosecutor general. The man was convicted of having sex with a minor," police spokesman Hassan Haneef said.

Official sources said the girl had been tried under sharia law which prohibits girls between the ages of 13 and 18 having pre-marital sex. Sex with a girl under the age of 13 is considered rape.

She was convicted on the basis of her confession.

Her lover, on the other hand, was tried under common law and convicted of having sex with a minor, an offence punishable with a sentence of up to 15 years in prison.

The pair had intercourse on the Raa atoll, about 200 kilometres (125 miles) north of the capital island Male.

There was no immediate comment from the Maldivian government, which includes the ultra conservative Adhaalath Party, whose supporters follow a strict brand of Wahhabi Islam.

The country's first democratically elected president, the Western-educated Mohamed Nasheed, resigned in February saying he was forced out in a coup backed by Islamic extremists along with elements of the police and the armed forces.

The unnamed teenager was convicted on her confession under sharia law after her family complained she had sex with a 29-year-old man in July.

The man was given 10 years in jail during a court hearing on the remote Raa atoll on Sunday.

A court official said the girl could refuse the flogging and would then instead be subjected only to eight months house arrest. Should she agree, the lashing will be carried out when she reaches the age of 18.

"In most cases, the offenders would accept the lashing as part of penance," the official, who declined to be named, said.

Secret previous sexual intercourse

One in ten women lie to their partners about how many previous lovers they’ve had. I can’t work out if that’s surprising or not but what does stagger me is why this conversation is happening in Stradas across the land in the first place. To my mind, this has ‘DON’T GO THERE’ scrawled all over it. For myriad reasons.


Everyone goes on about how ‘age aint nothing but a number.’ Well, why not the same judgement-free attitude towards sex? The fact that we worry about putting our number ‘out there’ shows that this bit of information is still loaded with assumption. I’ve heard all kinds of sane, smart men and women reel off their own utterly arbitrary rules on this. ‘More than 15 will make him think I’m easy. Less than 10 and I’ll look inexperienced...’ (Misguided.) ‘If I say the truth – three – he’ll think I’m frigid.’ (And you’re dating him because...?) ‘Saying more than 25 would make her feel insecure...’ 


Why is it anyone’s business? Yes, of course you need to delve into your sexual past if a trip to the STI clinic has revealed you’ve got a very intimate NBF but since when did this conversation become a given? You’ve agreed to date this person, not endure an Apprentice-style grilling on your sex CV. If the question comes up, how about a simple ‘I don’t think that’s really relevant... Now tell me, if you could be any fish, what kind of fish would you be?’ (Trust me, this is the kind of question you want to be asking on dates. Piranha, yowch! But kinda hot. 


And anyway, how come so many of you can pluck this number out of the ether anyway? I was an avid list-maker as a teenager. In fact, I had colour-coded lists so I could keep track of ‘boys I fancy’, ‘boys who potentially fancy me’ and ‘boys who are a sort’ (that was 1990s burbs-speak for ‘hot’). But I honestly couldn’t tell you how many men I’ve kissed or slept with. I can barely remember what I had for dinner last night. 


So can we all agree that sex isn’t a numbers game? Give up the mental tally. Quit the grilling. And let’s see every new relationship  for what it is: a fresh start. And a chance to ask people about the fish they most represent...

Reasons why women cheat

She seeks the thrill. Some women cheat for the thrill of it. The excitement of doing things behind a partner’s back, the risk, the adrenaline rush, the desire are all very potent reasons for a woman to cheat. The cheating bit isn’t always emotional, it is in fact an out and out physical act that is engaged in for the thrill of it.

She wants more. The most obvious reason for a woman to cheat is that she isn’t getting enough sex or that she isn’t happy with what you have to offer. It is this happiness that results in her getting involved in an adulterous relationship. It is left to the man in the relationship to pull his socks up and fight for his woman. If you love her and want her, you have to go the extra mile and satisfy her.

She wants to get back at you. If you have cheated on her in the past, she could cheat on you just to get back at you. Yes, women can be rather revengeful if they so wish!

She is bored. Less or no experimentation in the bedroom can be one of the reasons a woman chooses to cheat. Women seek as much variation in the bedroom as men do and if her man cannot provide her the same, she is bound to look for it outside.

She feels neglected. This is the most common reason women give when asked why they cheated. Feeling neglected, unwanted or useless is what drives women to cheat. It is when their husbands or boyfriends ignore them that they take to finding companionship and solace in the company of others.

If you don’t want to go through the pain of being cheated, then it is up to you to ensure your woman is happy and satisfied. Give it your best shot and more and thus ensure that she has no excuse to cheat on you.

Six Benefits of Sleeping Naked

1. Release oxytocin
The hormone oxytocin is released when the skin comes in contact with skin. For example when touching the skin from head to toe all night long. Some of the benefits of oxytocin, which increase the sense of prosperity, lower heart rate, reduces stress hormones, increase trust, and sexual urges.

2. Create a "mood" for sex
Many women refuse to have sex because it was baseball mood. Can cause fatigue, fear of waking the child at any time, or anything that disturb the mind. In fact, refuses to just make women feel lonely and neglected.

3. Look erotic
Couples everywhere will not bear to see his wife at his side curled up nude. It becomes a kind of invitation for him to have sex.

4. Creating desire
One of the main reasons women do not want to have sex is the imbalance in the relationship with their spouse. When we feel separated from your partner, you may also lose the passion for him. Well, sleeping naked can help overcome these obstacles.

5. Bonding
When skin contact with each other in bed, you can increase the sense of the bond between you and your partner. Remember when first dating or first married, wanted always in touch, right? The more you touch, you feel more close to the couple.

6. Better
Have sex more often provide many health benefits. Half to one hour a day to make love can be a fun sport.

Women who want to be a nun should try having a boyfriend first

Women who want to be a nun should try having a boyfriend first. The surprising advice is not from some liberal activist, but from a Benedictine nun, Sr. Mary John Mananzan.

Mananzan, the head of the Association of Major Religious Superiors in the Philippines (AMRSP), said having a romantic relationship with a man is one way of helping a woman find out if she is really meant to spend a life of meditation, embracing the vows of poverty, chastity, and obedience.

''I tell them go have a boyfriend or if they have a suitor, I tell them entertain him,'' she told reporters in an interview during a gathering in Manila.

''I don't mind if they'll have a boyfriend; at least they have a choice so that when they're inside (a convent) they won't be tempted anymore,'' the 74 year-old nun said.

Mananzan also counseled young women to try working first.

''If they are only 22 years old, we tell them to work first for them to experience it so that they won't regret it later,'' she said.

Mananzan admitted that the number of women joining a religious order has declined over the years.

''If you will compare it to the 1950s it's not so much anymore, but we have yet to experience a crisis unlike in America and Europe where convents are closing down. We still have enough personnel. We even send missionaries all over the world,'' said Mananzan.

The Benedictine nun attributed the decline mainly to the secularization of the society.

''There's a lot of secularization and women have more opportunities now to serve the poor unlike before that you have enter the convent to do that,'' Mananzan said.

''To be celibate is a special vocation. If you want to help the poor you can do that without having the vow of celibacy. To have the vow of celibacy is something very special that's why I don't believe that everybody is called for that,'' she added.

But, Mananzan said, the degree of secularization in the Philippines is not so much unlike in other countries.

''There's a difference in the degree of secularization. In Europe, they don't go to church anymore unlike here our churches are full with people. The people are still very religious and families are more or less still intact,'' she said.

Mananzan said there are still more nuns than are priests in the Philippines.

''I think we are about 10,000...there are more nuns than priests,'' she said.

In 2004, then Imus Bishop Luis Antonio Tagle disclosed that there is a shortage of priests in the Philippines and at least 25,000 are needed to serve some 68 million Filipino Catholics.

Tagle, chairman of the Catholic Bishops Conference of the Philippines' Episcopal commission on doctrine of faith, said the 8,700 priests nationwide are overworked since the ideal ratio should be one priest for at least 2,000 parishioners.

That time, he said, the country has only one priest serving 15,000 Catholics.

Mananzan then invited the youth to consider entering the religious life.

''To the youth, if you want a meaningful life, this is a very meaningful life. I could say that because I'm a nun for more than 55 years and I'm not regretting it at all,'' she said.

Pomegranate the Sex Fruit

We've always enjoyed pomegranates for their sweet, tart flavor, but now there's a new reason to embrace this robust-looking red fruit. They're being touted as a nutritional powerhouse, and they're popping up in everything from cocktails to body lotion.

A prominent player in aphrodisiac lore, pomegranate was regaled as a culinary symbol of Aphrodite by the ancient Greeks. Some say the forbidden fruit of the Bible was not apple at all, but a pomegranate fruit. In other Western lore, the mythological unicorn was tied to a pomegranate tree. Since the early days of the written word, the promise of the pomegranate has made a lasting impression as a sensual symbol, appearing in poetic works of great authors from Homer to Shakespeare.

In the Orient, pomegranate has been used for generations to treat depression, settle sore stomachs and neutralize internal parasites. According to Chinese lore, this particular fruit, based upon its abundance of seeds, promotes and serves, as a symbol, of prosperity, in the form of an abundant household. Such abundance is measured in the size of the family, based, of course, on procreation. Hence, procreation is brought about through sexual interaction.

Walnut an Alternative to Viagra

Walnut may be a fruit for you to patronize. Some people have a constantly low libido, whereas others experience episodes of loss of libido. Walnuts are rich in protein, and high in potassium and other minerals such as zinc and iron. Because of this, it is being touted as an aphrodisiac. Besides this, the omega-3 fatty acids in walnuts are helpful in protecting the body from cardiovascular diseases by preventing erratic rhythms in the heart, making the blood less likely to clot inside the arteries, and improving the ratio of good to bad cholesterol.

Mounting scientific research shows the health benefits of walnuts. Walnuts are the healthy nut and go beyond lowering cholesterol. A new clinical study from the University of Barcelona shows that substituting walnuts for monounsaturated fat in a Mediterranean diet improves, and even restores, endothelial function (the property of arteries to dilate in order to meet an increased demand of blood). Walnuts also reduce harmful cell adhesion molecules which are associated with atherosclerosis, commonly known as hardening of the arteries. These dual effects enhance the circulatory system, therefore aiding in the prevention of heart disease. According to the researchers, walnuts are the first whole food to show such cardiovascular benefits.

Walnuts are a complete aliment, and have a high energetic value: up to 6,500 calories per kilogram. This is due to their high content in polyunsaturated fats. They are also rich in iodine, they are considered good for preventing goiter caused by thyroid gland impairment and all hormonal unbalances associated with it.

Did you know that ancient Romans and other cultures threw walnuts instead of rice at weddings because they believed walnuts held aphrodisiac powers? Just recently, researchers announced they have produced a Viagra alternative from it too, the tablet called N-Hanz. The team of researchers at Universiti Malaya (UM) was able to its potentials as a local alternative to Viagra. Prof. Kim Kah Hwi, who headed the team of researchers, said he was inspired to look into walnuts after reading about their use in history and so far 40 volunteers had tried the tablet containing walnut extract and responded positively. Prof. Kim said the new pill was comparable to Viagra as well as safe, although a person would have to consume about 3.3kg of walnuts for the same effect as one tablet. He said, it takes about an hour for the effects to set in and it will last for about four hours. Furthermore, because it is not a drug, he said it is safe for those with hypertension or diabetes, or (those) who have recently had heart by passes, adding that some of the volunteers had undergone bypass surgeries.

Prof Kim said the active ingredient was arginine, an amino acid that is absorbed into the body and converted into nitric oxide known to help to enlarge blood vessels and enhance blood flow to the penis. All these foods that have aphrodisiac properties are within easy reach, including walnut, and so low libido should no more be a dilemma.

Six Sex Benefits

Most people learn the basics behind sex when Mom, Dad or the sex-ed teacher sit them down for a talk about where babies come from. And sure, sex is about reproduction. But it also has a number of pleasant side effects that aren't quite as well-known. Here are six things (safe) sex can do for you.

Reduce Anxiety
Sex may sometimes cause, ahem, performance anxiety, but fortunately there's a cure: Sex! OK, maybe it isn't as simple as that, but sexual activity has been shown to reduce anxiety in rodents and humans. A study published in July 2010 in the science journal PLoS ONE found that sexually active rats displayed fewer anxious behaviors compared with rats that hadn't been allowed to have sex (the study also found that sex protected the rats' brains from the negative effects of stress hormones). Sex can relax people, too, according to a study of 24 men and 22 women who kept daily diaries of their sexual activity and then had to either do arithmetic or speak in front of a crowd. People who reported more sexual intercourse had lower blood pressure when performing these stressful tasks.

Make you happy
No big surprise here: Sex and happiness go hand-in-hand. A 2004 study published in the economics journal The American Economic Review asked 900 American women how various daily activities made them feel and found that "intimate relations" topped the charts for happiness. (The morning commute was the most unpleasant daily ritual.) A 2004 study of 16,000 Americans, published by the National Bureau of Economic Research, found that people who are happy tend to be the ones getting the most action. The study estimated that boosting between-the-sheets time from once a month to once a week was the happiness equivalent of getting a $50,000 raise.

Boost immunity
While you probably shouldn't get busy with someone with a cold, regular sex may boost your immune system. A study presented at the Eastern Psychological Association Convention in 1999 found that among undergraduate students, those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the antibody immunoglobulin A, or IgA, compared with students who fooled around less. IgA is found in saliva and mucosal linings, and it is one of the body's first defenses against infections. Don't get too excited, though: The study found that those who had sex three times a week or more had levels of IgA comparable to those who abstained from sex altogether, suggesting there's a happy medium. The researchers speculated that moderate sexual activity exposes you to other people's bugs, boosting the immune system, New Scientist magazine reported at the time. The sexaholics, on the other hand, may have been more anxious or stressed overall, which tends to lower immunity.

Soothe your pain
Orgasms don't just feel good; they ease pain. Research conducted at Rutgers University has found that women have increased pain tolerance and decreased pain detection during vaginal stimulation and orgasm. One 1985 study, published in the journal Pain, found that during vaginal stimulation, women saw increases in their pain threshold of about 36 percent to 40 percent. Around orgasm, women's pain threshold increased by 74.6 percent. The researchers are hoping they can isolate the chemical or brain response that causes this immunity to pain, enabling them to take the effect out of the bedroom and into day-to-day life.

Decrease neuroticism
Do you stress out about relationships? A regular sex life could ease your fears. Newlyweds who score high in neuroticism – a trait marked by mood swings and frequent worry – cope better in their marriages when there's more sex. For most couples, frequency of sex at this stage of marriage wasn't associated with happiness, but neurotic spouses seemed to get a boost when things were active in the bedroom. Neuroticism tends to make people unhappy, but sex wiped worries away, making neurotic newlyweds as satisfied as their relaxed counterparts.

Reduce prostate cancer risk
Men, here's a good reason to get off: Ejaculation may reduce prostate cancer risk. A 2004 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association followed 30,000 men, including about 1,500 who eventually got prostate cancer, and found that an active sex life was not associated with a higher risk of the disease. Men who ejaculated the most – 21 times a month or more – were about one-third less likely to develop prostate cancer than those who ejaculated between four and seven times a month. The jury is still out on when and if adding extra ejaculation to your life is helpful, however. Research on the topic has been somewhat contradictory and the protective effect of ejaculation is probably small. Perhaps the best approach is to have sex for sex's sake, and let the side benefits fall where they may.

Why Sex is Good for You

Except for contracting sexually transmitted diseases when you’re excessively adventurous in this regard, yes, sex is definitely good for your health. I’m aware that it’s a really old zombie topic (comes back to life again and again) and that most people have encountered this information before; but tell me, how many of you could still remember and enumerate ALL the benefits you’ll get from sex? I doubt there will be at least one.

And so, in the spirit of pro-creation, pro-sex, and just for the heck of it, here’s a quick (I wish) rundown of what YOU can get from sex:

Sex is a good exercise. Here’s what you’ll get for doing it frequently (masturbation is not counted).

• Lower cholesterol – An aggressive and vigorous sex burns 200 calories. Do it everyday and you’ll have zero fat in your body, guaranteed.
• Healthier heart – Not only will you lose weight, sex also guarantees a reduced risk of heart ailments.
• Toned muscles - Muscular contractions during intercourse work the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck, thorax, and PC muscles. Lazy sex will only get half of it. An improved PC muscle helps women relieve menstrual cramps.
• Improved bones – more likely if you’re into the acrobatic sex positions where you sometimes have to support your weight and your partner’s. It’s called weight lifting. Additionally, testosterone plays an important part here as well which will be explained later.
• Increased blood flow – Sex helps increase the blood flow to your brain and to all other organs of your body. This leads to improved blood circulation which gives fresh oxygen supply to your organs and removes the waste products in your blood and organs.

Sex does a lot of stuff to your brain. Simply imagining it gets you through a lot of brain exercise. What more if you do it for real?

• Reduced Stress – Good sex makes you release all that kept tension in your thoughts and just let go. Also, a study in 2002 reported that sexually active females whose partners don’t use condom were less subject to depression compared to their counterparts whose partners did. They say that a hormone found in semen (prostaglandin) gets absorbed in her genital tract, thus modulating female hormones preventing the attack of depression.
• Relaxed and Improved Sleep – Orgasms allows everyone to completely let go, hence a profound relaxation afterwards. Because of this people are able to surrender all distracting thoughts. Being able to stop thinking has helped many to overcome insomnia and have a better sleep.
• Positive and calm disposition – Although not true for everyone, generally, sex makes you less irritable and gives you a positive attitude in life or about something. Sex is also capable of boosting your self-esteem.
• Feel Younger – Aging folks always get that feeling. It could be, perhaps, attributed to the positive feeling associated with sex.
• Relieves Pain – Sex is 10 times more effective than Valium. Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine.
  

Sex is also a form of beauty treatment.

• Shiny hair and smooth skin – “Mane and Tail”, which was first tested on horses, gives you shiny hair. Sex does better. Scientific tests found that when woman make love they produce amounts of estrogen, which make their hair shiny and skin smooth.
• Healthier skin – Your skin gets smooth not only because of the estrogen but also because of the sweat. Especially during one sizzling hot and sweaty bout in bed, the sweat you produce cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow. Gentle, relaxed lovemaking also reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes.
• Improved Posture – Women who get regular sex not only get firmer tummy and buttocks, but also an improved posture.
• Better Teeth – Seminal plasma contains zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay. How then do you get it into your mouth? Girls, it’s alright to get down and dirty. Additionally, torrid hot kisses encourage saliva to wash food from the teeth and lower the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.

A healthy sex life also improves your sense of smell. Prolactin (a hormone produced after sex) stimulates the olfactory nerve, the center for smell, increasing smell perception. A lot of lovemaking can also unblock a stuffy nose.

Regular sexual activity boosts testosterone and estrogen levels in both men and women. Testosterone is what drives both men and women want to have sex, the more there is the more aggressive sex turns out. Besides boosting your libido testosterone fortifies bones and muscles. Some physicians suggest that testosterone keeps hearts healthy and good cholesterol high. Estrogen on the other hand keeps women’s vaginal tissues more supple, skins smooth, and breasts soft and ample. It also reduces the pain of premenstrual syndrome.

Sex can also boost your immune system. People who have sex once or twice a week have been shown to have higher rates of immunoglobulin A, a known immune booster. Intimacy also makes human beings happy, healthy, and peaceful which dramatically improves the immune system and healing capability.

Your prostate will be happier when you have sex. That is because studies have seen a relationship between prostate cancer and the infrequency of ejaculation or the release of your man juice. When you’re not able to release it, your prostate concentrates all the minerals of your seminal fluid up to 600 times. There’s a possibility that carcinogens in your blood will also get concentrated along with it. So before everything’s too late, just release it. Besides having sex, one effective way to combat the untoward effect of bad concentration in the prostate is a good old “Onanism”. Onan your way to euphoria!!!

Perhaps, the best thing you could get from sex and the only thing you’ve been waiting to hear is; “Sex prolongs your life.” A British study of 1,000 men found those who had at least two orgasms a week had half the death rate of their countrymen who indulge less than once a month. Just read the positive effects from the top up to here and you’ll understand why.

So, did I change your perception toward sex?

Guide to Multiple Male Orgasms

You’re having trouble with your performance in bed. You can’t last longer than what your partner expect you to be; and, sorry to say, you feel inadequate about it. What’s worse is, you’ve tried it on a donkey or a goat in the farm and the animal just smiled at you as if intending to insult you and aggravate more the situation you’re in. You feel so pathetic afterwards that you begin to think of committing suicide to end your misery.

Before you do that, have you tried consulting a sex therapist, or at least considered browsing through the internet to answer your problem? If not, then you’re in luck. This guide is for you and the several thousands of guys just like you. Yes, you’re not alone in your pursuit for a longer more satisfying “H-A-P-P-I-N-E-S-S”. There are other “pathetic males” just like you living on the face of this God-forsaken planet.

Experts say that the root of most of your problem lies in the brain. Psychological and environmental factors affect the length of time before an individual reaches climax. If you’re too uptight and suffer a great deal in terms of your emotional well-being, chances are your sexual performance will be greatly compromised. One solution to that is to overcome your “over-tensed” sexual behavior. Learn to relax and let go of your emotions and worries. But that alone will not solve it. You should also learn how to control your ejaculation reflex. One way of attaining that is learning how to achieve and become a “true multi-orgasmic male.”

A “true multi-orgasmic male” is a male above any normal male in terms of sexual performance. He is able to achieve incredible feats of orgasmic activity transcending the single orgasm normal males are capable of and turning it into waves of continuous orgasm never experienced by lowly pathetic single orgasmic human males in their lifetime.

Why become a “truly multi-orgasmic male”?

• You’ll be able to last longer in bed.
• Of course, it follows that your partner will be more satisfied.
• It follows also that you’ll be more satisfied.
• You’ll have more intense and powerful orgasms you’ve never felt before in your life.
• You’ll have a better sense of well-being.
• It might sound weird but traditionally, Taoists believe that through practicing multiple-orgasmic sex, one would reinvigorate his strength and vitality, thus increasing his longevity.

Who can become a “truly multi-orgasmic male”?
Anyone and that means anyone including you, if you’re a male that is; because if you’re a female, you’ll be called a “truly multi-orgasmic female”.

What is a “multiple male orgasm”?
A multiple male orgasm refers to an orgasm achieved successively, without the complete loss of sexual arousal and erection in between. So if you could do several orgasms a day with rests or recovery periods in between, that’s not a true multiple male orgasm.

How do I achieve multiple male orgasms?
Before you can become a “truly multi-orgasmic male” you must first undergo a series of easy to follow exercises to train your body to achieve multiple orgasms. It can’t be learned overnight as it needs time, proper training and conditioning of the muscles involved to prolong your climax cycle and control your ejaculation reflex.

True multiple male orgasms
Basically, there are two principles that you must understand in becoming a “true multi-orgasmic male”.